Every day I get thousands of letters, fruit boxes and stripagrams from AFC readers who say “why so quiet?” or “What happened to the award-winning blog on equal parenting?” The answer is simple: I broke the “no reaching” rule. When we embarked on this baby adventure, Tee and I agreed that for the first 12-18 […]
How we survived the newborn phase
People talk about the newborn phase as the hardest one to share, as parents. Best intentions come up against biological realities. This is how we approached it. Weeks 1-4: survival modeWe were both on leave, allowing us both to go all-in. We gave ourselves clear roles, as we did during pregnancy. I was the Head […]
A 50:50 pregnancy – I think we got this right
The burden of pregnancy seems to fall heavily on the womb-holder – managing physical changes, attending a plethora of medical appointments, setting up the house and administrivia. This seems unfair, and I suspect it creates bad habits, establishing one person as baby expert. Yeah nah. So when got pregnant with Bud, we gave ourselves distinct […]
The starting point: 5 months of baby
Five months ago Tee and I had a baby. So you could say we’re experts at this parenting thing. Over the past five months I’ve had a lot of time (many two minute slots) to think (vainly grasp at concepts) about things and discuss (addled 2am WhatsApps) with friends (anyone who’ll listen). I’ve read the […]